I’ve been struggling a lot lately with the direction my life is supposed to take. How can I create a career that I don’t want to retire from and have the most availability for my children.
I’m frozen now knowing what direction to step into.
Do I continue working in mental health as a nurse
Do I go back to university so I can teach at the college/university level.
I really need my angels and spirit to offer me clear direction”
It’s such a great question and I think so relevant to so many people, which is why I decided to create a BLOG this week to answer it properly. If you’re reading this, there’s no coincidence. It’s because there’s something here that you need.
How can I get clarity when I’m so frozen in place?
When I ask to be shown intuitively what’s going…
So when I tap into your energy and ask creator what’s going on…
I see you bent into a ball sitting in the dark. It’s like you’ve been sitting there for so long, you don’t know how to get out.
There’s a little bit of light, but you’re struggling to let yourself explore go towards it. You’re thinking …
… I’m afraid of getting it wrong.
… There’s no point.
… Nothing is going to change.
Depression is rampid.
When I ask creator what you need to know, I see the sign for breathe.“YOu need to breathe and reconnect to your spirit.”
This is about feeling better. Before you can get clarity, you need to feel better.
How can you feel better?
There’s resistance to feeling better. If you feel better, you think that you won’t change your life. It’s actually the opposite of it. I know it’s counter intuitive. It’s like when you go down a river and you don’t lean into a rock/hole, you get trashed. If you lean in, you get through it faster.
Here’s what you do now:
- Decide right now you’re going to lean into this feeling and explore it. You can make a declaration in your journal to do so. For example, “Okay. I’m frozen. I don’t know what to do. Right now, I’m just going to let myself explore that.”
- Feel your feelings. There’s lots of ways to do this, but the way I like the most is to breathe, scan your body and acknowledge. When you do find the feeling, write it down, “I feel …”. Keep doing this even for at least five-minutes. If you’re frozen, write down, “I feel frozen.” The feelings will change and evolve as you acknowledge them.
- When you’re done with the previous step, what do these feelings mean? Acknowledge the story behind it and make it extreme. For example: It means that I’m stuck forever and I’ll never have the impact I came to this planet to make. Find the humor in it. You want to see that it’s just a story and it’s entirely ridiculous. Why? It’s the story that stops you from taking action. It’s the story that stops you from moving forward.
- Do you want to keep believing that story? What’s a new story you could tell yourself. For example: I’m growing and I’m expending. This is my inner being wanting me to bounce more. I’ll figure this out. Lots of other people have. I’ve come along way. I’m so curious to know where it will take me and I love being guided. I’m so excited to spend more time with my kids and family. The universe will show me the way. They are everything to me. They are my purpose. That’s why I’m going through this.
Do it and check it to see how you feel?
Once you feel better, I ask creator what you need. I see you getting out of the dark hole you’ve been in. I see the number 10. Once you feel better, shelve the problem for 10 days.
In 10 days, you’ll be able to ask, “What’s my next best step?” and the answer will be 1000% clear.
Let me know in the comments.
Why is it such a struggle to love myself every day?
This is a great question that was asked Bobbie Hayes- DiDomenico.
I’m going to answer it from my own perspective.
I used to roll my eyes when I saw posts with people saying “love-yourself”.
What the eff does it mean?
It’s not like I go around hating myself, not consciously, right. I knew I was hard on myself, but I didn’t think that was self-hate. I just thought it was normal, the thing that needed to happen.
Then one day David Neagle asked me, “what happened to you?” and I said, “I wasn’t loved.”
And a light bulb went out …
I didn’t feel loved. I thought I was unlovable and I knew in my heart that I didn’t love me. I couldn’t really say it. That night I did a healing to bring my love back into me and I really started to love me.
With all the healing work I’d done, this was the first time, I could finally look in the mirror and say I loved myself.
That was the easy part.
Then the hard work started.
What would I do differently if I truly loved myself? I decided to stop beating on myself. I gave up being a workaholic as an act of self-love. It was like being whipped into submission. Self-love means allowing what wants to come from me to come through.
I say real work because this blew up my identity and who I thought I was. My whole identity was shattered in a whole minute and I spent the next 12-months lost and dazed. It’s what is called the dark of the night soul. It’s the space between the old and the new.
Do I love myself every day?
It’s a practice.
It’s practice for everyone. it’s a dance with our inner being.
When I catch myself (I don’t always), I change.
What it boils down to is the ability to identify where I’m hating on myself (should, have to’s, holding on) and to let go of what I think I should do and just be me.
It’s how I was able to break my diet coke habit last summer and start running. I saw these things as acts of self-love, not obligations to be hard on myself. I kept the running and I must break the diet-coke addiction again.
It’s also I started to expand my vision and receive more. Just-enough was a self-hatred practice. No more. I want more and it’s okay. No more judgement.
It’s a practice.
One day at a time.
Here’s something you can do practice …
- Identify one thing. Where i your life are you hating on yourself? Where are you denying yourself? How are you being hard on yourself?
- Do you want to change it and why? Make a conscious decision. If you don’t do this, you’re not going to change it.
- What would be an act of self-love? This could be drinking more water. This could be making a decision to stop a relationship or to ask for what you really want.
- Go do it.
They say follow your inspiration.
I actively try to do that every single day. I get into a better feeling place and I let myself be inspired. Sometimes I do that with a song, sometimes with a meditation and always with a mindset practice. It’s a key part of my day.
I do believe that my inner being is guiding me to create my dreams in the fastest way possible.
So when I was inspired to attend a two-day workshop, I signed up.
Now I got into the workshop and something immediately felt off for me. It was like jumping on a merry-go-around that was just not going fast enough for my own liking and that kept breaking down.
What I had a been thinking?
I realized this morning that it had been a detour with a very important lesson:
You can’t copy/follow someone else and expect to be massively amazing and successful. The KEY is to make it your own and follow your truth no matter what someone else says. It doesn’t matter how much you like them or how successful they are.
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Have you ever felt like an egg is about to crack open?
Like something inside of you is just waiting to come out, used but all the while you’re feeling trapped. Maybe by your relationships, your job or by your past?
You’re definitely not alone.
Today I wanted to share with you my top 3 TIPS for cracking yourself open and releasing what’s inside of you so you can crack open.
After all, the good stuff inside the egg (aka the good stuff inside of you) can’t come out if you don’t crack it open. YES, I’m comparing you to an EGG. You have so much stuff inside of you and it’s time for it to come.
The reason I want this for you is that I want you to come alive. I want you to experience life and you can’t do this if you’re trapped.
I get it.
Back when I worked in the IT world, I felt like I was trapped and I couldn’t breathe.
One part of me told to suck it up and this was life. The other part of me told to GET out and to RUN like hell.
As much as I wanted too, I was totally paralyzed in fear.
- What if I get it wrong and fall flat on my face?
- What if THIS what life is supposed to be like?
- What if I’m not meant to be happy?
My breakthrough came during a meditation where I finally allowed myself to just be ME.
For a while, I stopped caring about what other people and I started to put me first. Within 18 months, I’d left my “real” corporate job, I’d gone into coaching and started my Theta Healing® journal. I also published my first book.
Here are 3 KEYS to cracking up and letting yourself rise into purpose, passion and happiness:
1) There is no perfect time
For years, I thought that I needed a plan and that I needed to be ready to leave my corporate job. When I left, I was actually in a really good place in my jo. I had a team of 17 people and I loved every minute. I had all the reasons in the world to say, but I just to go. There is no perfect time to go after what you want. There is just right now.
If you never crack an egg, the best parts remain in the inside.
2) Momentum is required.
When I left my “real” corporate job, I didn’t want a boring ‘consulting’ job, but I wanted things to change. And I knew they wouldn’t change if I stayed where I was. If I hadn’t put the energy up front to get past the FEAR, I would still be trapped. What I discovered is that if you want things to change, you have to put some energy into it to get yourself started and to get past the FEAR that keeps you track.
If you never crack the egg, you’ll never RISE.
3) Take radical responsibility
If you want to change your life, it’s up to you. YOU ARE FREE, but you have to take responsibility for your life and what you choose to create.
You can’t change your life if you’re waiting for rainbows and unicorns to come and force you to take make a change.
Only you can crack the egg and rise.
If you’re ready to crack open and rise into purpose passion and happiness, check out Goddess Rising. I’m now accepting applications for the next round, which starts in April.
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See you soon –
Do you ever tell yourself, “I don’t know what to do?”
Isn’t it the best excuse?
As long as you don’t know what to do, you don’t have to face those fears of yours and do what’s scaring you. The problem, of course, is that it keeps you stuck and feeling miserable. You’ll never find your purpose, have a bigger impact and live up to your potential way.
It’s a little like climbing a rope to get a better view, but when you get to the top, you’re looking with your eyes closed in infinity. It’s exhausting and it gets you nowhere FAST. Eventually, it just zaps your confidence and self-esteem because now you have proof that you don’t know what to do.
Stop closing your eyes, acknowledge what you do know and take the next step.
If you still don’t know what to do, it just means that your ego is on overdrive trying to keep you safe.
If that happens, close your eyes, put your right hand over your heart, connect with God and ask your inner being guidance for guidance. You will be shown the way. Journal it out.
Go take action.
Helpful? Questions? Comments? Let me know in the comments.
Now you won’t necessarily be shown the entire solution, but you will be shown the next steps.
Finding the confidence to trust yourself and take action is a big part of Goddess Rising™ .
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