Do you know how to receive?


Okay… you are probably a giver, but are you ever a receiver?

I’m a natural giver. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I share that with the world. Whether it’s a hug, or a lending hand, I’m always there. At work, I am the one who adapts to anyone in order to help. I LOVE being helpful.

It’s an awesome amazing quality.

Unfortunately, it left me feeling like a wet dishrag at the bottom of the sink.

I was depressed, burned out, and bitter. I gave so much, yet received so little.

I used to blame others for my problem.

Then one day, I found myself learning a Hawaiian dance.  The movement was simple: I would receive energy from the universe in my right hand, let it go through me, and then let it out on my left. I realized in that moment that the reason I felt so empty inside was I had given everything I had and I had never bothered to replenish.

I had never allowed myself to receive what the universe had to offer.

Aside from the fact that you will have nothing left to give, you are refusing help from the universe. That makes it hard to manifest what you want in your life.

Not receiving stops the flow of manifesting

When you don’t receive, you tell the universe that you don’t want its help.

I like the story of the drowning man.

As he is threads water, he calls out, “God save me.”

A time goes buy and a rescue boat comes. He refuses to get on the boat saying that, “I am waiting for God to come.”

A little while later, a helicopter comes and offers to rescue him. Again, he refuses help.

Eventually the man drown. Upon finding himself in front of God, he says, “you didn’t come.”

God looks at him perplexed, “I sent a boat and a helicopter. “

Receiving may not come in the way that you expect, but it does come if you allow it.

How are you stopping yourself from receiving?

There are countless ways, so here I outline 3 that I have plenty of experience doing. I also give you little bits and tricks to help you stop the flow. The more you can do that, the easier it will be for you to receive.

1. Refusing to take a compliment

If you aren’t accepting compliments, you are stopping yourself from receiving.

All of my life I had a problem with accepting compliments.

I had no problem with insults, but I would turn down and trash every compliment that came my way. “You are beautiful,” would turn into, “I am fat.” I would roll my eyes whenever someone called me super smart.

Let’s face it… when you can accept and let-in compliments, they have the power to make you feel awesome.  That only happens if you can receive them!

Also … it makes the person given feel super good.

The next time you catch yourself turning a compliment, say something like this, “I hear you. It’s hard for me to receive. Know that I am.”

I’ve been doing that for 10 years. It’s getting easier.

Try it and let me know what happens.

2. Paying for personal services, but not allow be themselves as to do “their” job.

I’ve spent a small fortune on personal services: healers, psychologists, coaches, massage therapist.

I’m going to shame myself here… sometimes I try to tell these people how to do their job.

I don’t mean too, but man I just want their services to be good. This is particularly true with coaches and healers. When they don’t do it “right,” I become a child refusing to accept their help. I’ve even gone as far as telling them that they are doing it wrong.

Here’s the problem with this (it’s more than I have a big head)…

This is like the drowning man.

I want the help to come in a specific way and I turn down everything else even the help is probably coming to me in the highest and best way for me.

God works in mysterious ways and it will work through the person you hired if you LET them.

If you struggle with this, start the session by giving verbal permission to the person. “I’m allowing you to work on me. I promise to let you.”

It works 85% of the time.

 3. Turn down money.

In this day and age you, money is a predominant energy in which you exchange with the universe.

The  truth is that you only receive what you think you are allowed to receive. The richest people in the world have figured out that there is no such rule when it comes to money. In fact, there are no rules about how much you can actually receive.

When you negotiated your last salary, did you ask for what you think was fair? Did you assume that you couldn’t ask for more? Not asking is like turning down money. If you don’t ask for more, you are saying NO to what is possible. In that way you are turning down money.

I have to say that the most uncomfortable part of my business has been learning to receive money in exchange for services.

I’ve turned down money and given sessions for FREE. I’ve negotiated a price and then returned part of it at the end of the session. I walked away from a Theta Healing class with 600$ less in my pocket because of “fairness.”

Not only did I devalue me, my clients and my students, I also kept myself very frustrated and cash poor. It also stopped me from making the leap to a successful business.

If you are struggling an entrepreneur, ask yourself this, “what happens if you don’t start charging more?” The answer is simple… you won’t be in business for very long and/or you’ll have to keep that day job forever.

Getting comfortable with receiving is probably not going to be easy, but it going to make manifesting so much easier.

If you aren’t accepting compliments, turning down, and trying to control how people help you, you are missing out on great opportunities.

Receiving the “good” stuff boils down to believing that you deserve it.

Let the universe help you manifest a live you love. You deserve and have the right to express your godliness in your lifetime!

Now I want to hear from you…  Any of the above ring true for you?

Are Unshed Tears Stopping You from Manifesting What you Truly Want?

I used to go around with so many unshed tears that I was a like a pot covered of boiling water. It was a time in my life where I had continuous outburst of anger.

I complained constantly about everything and everyone. Nothing good every happened to me. I was also one heck of a depressed human being.

Life sucked!

At the time I thought life was just unfair.

I hadn’t learned yet that my unshed tears were holding me back from creating and attracting the life I really wanted. The first time I let the tears come (ten years ago in May), I had more energy than I knew what to do with for twelve weeks. That’s when things started to shift.

Are you holding back tears?

Whether you are trying to manifest your life, get more money, or create a business you love, unshed tears will you hold back. There’s two reasons for this.

The first reason has to do with the law of action/reaction. For reaction (i.e. results) to occur, action must be taken. To take action you must have energy. If are constantly using your energy to keep the tears back, then you might not have enough left over to actually take action.

When you don’t take action, nothing changes. The second reason has to do with the law of attraction.

Keeping the tears from coming out keep your subconscious focused on the internal struggle. That means that your thoughts are essentially telling the world and universe that you want sadness and pain. So that’s what you get!

Are you up to the challenge of releasing them?

I never like the prospect of releasing my tears.

I always imagine that it’s going to be hard, long, and painful.

Every single time that I do, it’s never that hard, painful, or long. I always feel better even though I can feel more than little grossed out by the amount of snot coming out of my nose. Honestly I never met anyone for whom this wasn’t the case.

If you are up to the challenge, this is how you do this:

  • Decide how much time you have to let them go. 5, 10, 15 or 30 minutes are all good.
  • Find a quiet place where you can be alone. Make sure to have Kleenex with you!
  • After taking a few deep belly breaths, start tapping your right hand on your heart.
  • Keep tapping and allow the sadness to be released from your heart.
  • If you have time, write in your journal.
  • Once you are done, shake it out for a couple of minutes. This will bring your energy back up.

It takes a whole less energy to release  tears than to store them away.

Releasing them is the first step to getting the law of attraction to work for you. The second is to use that wonderful energy to take action. That’s when the law of attraction truly starts to work for you! So I want to know if this resonates with you? If you weren’t being held back, what action would you take the create the life you love?

Love & Light, Nathalie