Okay… you are probably a giver, but are you ever a receiver?

I’m a natural giver. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I share that with the world. Whether it’s a hug, or a lending hand, I’m always there. At work, I am the one who adapts to anyone in order to help. I LOVE being helpful.

It’s an awesome amazing quality.

Unfortunately, it left me feeling like a wet dishrag at the bottom of the sink.

I was depressed, burned out, and bitter. I gave so much, yet received so little.

I used to blame others for my problem.

Then one day, I found myself learning a Hawaiian dance.  The movement was simple: I would receive energy from the universe in my right hand, let it go through me, and then let it out on my left. I realized in that moment that the reason I felt so empty inside was I had given everything I had and I had never bothered to replenish.

I had never allowed myself to receive what the universe had to offer.

Aside from the fact that you will have nothing left to give, you are refusing help from the universe. That makes it hard to manifest what you want in your life.

Not receiving stops the flow of manifesting

When you don’t receive, you tell the universe that you don’t want its help.

I like the story of the drowning man.

As he is threads water, he calls out, “God save me.”

A time goes buy and a rescue boat comes. He refuses to get on the boat saying that, “I am waiting for God to come.”

A little while later, a helicopter comes and offers to rescue him. Again, he refuses help.

Eventually the man drown. Upon finding himself in front of God, he says, “you didn’t come.”

God looks at him perplexed, “I sent a boat and a helicopter. “

Receiving may not come in the way that you expect, but it does come if you allow it.

How are you stopping yourself from receiving?

There are countless ways, so here I outline 3 that I have plenty of experience doing. I also give you little bits and tricks to help you stop the flow. The more you can do that, the easier it will be for you to receive.

1. Refusing to take a compliment

If you aren’t accepting compliments, you are stopping yourself from receiving.

All of my life I had a problem with accepting compliments.

I had no problem with insults, but I would turn down and trash every compliment that came my way. “You are beautiful,” would turn into, “I am fat.” I would roll my eyes whenever someone called me super smart.

Let’s face it… when you can accept and let-in compliments, they have the power to make you feel awesome.  That only happens if you can receive them!

Also … it makes the person given feel super good.

The next time you catch yourself turning a compliment, say something like this, “I hear you. It’s hard for me to receive. Know that I am.”

I’ve been doing that for 10 years. It’s getting easier.

Try it and let me know what happens.

2. Paying for personal services, but not allow be themselves as to do “their” job.

I’ve spent a small fortune on personal services: healers, psychologists, coaches, massage therapist.

I’m going to shame myself here… sometimes I try to tell these people how to do their job.

I don’t mean too, but man I just want their services to be good. This is particularly true with coaches and healers. When they don’t do it “right,” I become a child refusing to accept their help. I’ve even gone as far as telling them that they are doing it wrong.

Here’s the problem with this (it’s more than I have a big head)…

This is like the drowning man.

I want the help to come in a specific way and I turn down everything else even the help is probably coming to me in the highest and best way for me.

God works in mysterious ways and it will work through the person you hired if you LET them.

If you struggle with this, start the session by giving verbal permission to the person. “I’m allowing you to work on me. I promise to let you.”

It works 85% of the time.

 3. Turn down money.

In this day and age you, money is a predominant energy in which you exchange with the universe.

The  truth is that you only receive what you think you are allowed to receive. The richest people in the world have figured out that there is no such rule when it comes to money. In fact, there are no rules about how much you can actually receive.

When you negotiated your last salary, did you ask for what you think was fair? Did you assume that you couldn’t ask for more? Not asking is like turning down money. If you don’t ask for more, you are saying NO to what is possible. In that way you are turning down money.

I have to say that the most uncomfortable part of my business has been learning to receive money in exchange for services.

I’ve turned down money and given sessions for FREE. I’ve negotiated a price and then returned part of it at the end of the session. I walked away from a Theta Healing class with 600$ less in my pocket because of “fairness.”

Not only did I devalue me, my clients and my students, I also kept myself very frustrated and cash poor. It also stopped me from making the leap to a successful business.

If you are struggling an entrepreneur, ask yourself this, “what happens if you don’t start charging more?” The answer is simple… you won’t be in business for very long and/or you’ll have to keep that day job forever.

Getting comfortable with receiving is probably not going to be easy, but it going to make manifesting so much easier.

If you aren’t accepting compliments, turning down, and trying to control how people help you, you are missing out on great opportunities.

Receiving the “good” stuff boils down to believing that you deserve it.

Let the universe help you manifest a live you love. You deserve and have the right to express your godliness in your lifetime!

Now I want to hear from you…  Any of the above ring true for you?