Do you ever wonder why you attract the experiences you do into your life? I do. All the time. I believe we learn from all kinds of experiences including hard ones and the easy ones. Sometimes I say I could do without the hard experiences, but the truth is I tend to learn from those the most.

The amount of suffering is proportional to how long it takes for you to learn. 2015 has been crazy amazing – working with hundreds of clients has been a privilege and a blessing. Leaving the corporate world behind is one of the best decisions I have ever made.

I AM my walk. As amazing as it’s been, it hasn’t been easy. I’m dog tired. Whenever I commit to something, I’m like a dog with a bone. I go full blast until there’s nothing left or until I work myself into exhaustion. Usually the latter. Once it’s done, I go on vacation and recoup.

That’s the way things have always been. Building my business hasn’t been any different. I’ve been getting signs since June that I was nearing the wall of exhaustion. At first, it was just my body telling me I was tired.

It’s normal – I’m working hard. Just keep going. A short while later, I had an inkling that it wasn’t healthy to take my phone to bed to “Facebook”, but still I kept doing it. Don’t I have to be on Facebook twelve hours a day to make it work? The weight I was putting was a clear sign that I wasn’t eating well. Unless you consider A&W hamburgers gourmet cuisine. It was making me lethargic.

In September, I knew I needed a vacation to regroup. I’d worked through the summer ignoring the exhaustion and the tears. And then I launched Manifest Money Bootcamp. That did it. By November, I hit the wall of exhaustion. All I could do was sleep. Since I was sleeping so much, I started spending every waking moment working.  I would wake-up and crawl of bed into my office to turn on my computer. Just push through.

And then I did the unthinkable. I LOST IT WITH A CLIENT.

All she, the beautiful and amazing soul did was ask me a question in response to her Manifesting Booster. I don’t think I saw the words on the page. I jumped to conclusions. Immediately I got on her case (on Facebook of all places). She was brave enough to call me out on it. I was mortified. What the hell was I doing? What was happening to me that I was getting pissed with a client?

As soon as I stopped and caught my breath, I knew what was happening. I’d hit the wall of exhaustion. Not an excuse. It’s just my pattern. LOSING it with a client was my SIGN from the universe that it was time for me to stop. I’d ignored all of the others. It’s said that the universe sends you sign, each one bigger than the previous, until you hear them.

My business was like to a gigantic hole. One I couldn’t climb out of. Or at least that was the story I told myself. Blowing up meant I had no choice but to climb out of the pit of exhaustion. I learned a few things along the way. I thought you might enjoy learning from them, so I’m sharing them here:  

#1 Facebook was killing me.

What started out as a tactical tool to promote myself and my business had turned into an unhealthy addiction. The thing I’m not proud of is that I wasn’t managing my time.  It’s the number one commodity I have.

If I don’t manage it, no one else will. Successful entrepreneurs manage their time. I was spending hours giving away stuff for FREE on Facebook. If I’m spending all my time giving away stuff for free then I’m not actually making money. Successful entrepreneurs don’t attempt to do everything alone. They have teams. They delegate. 

No one builds an empire alone. It takes a team. If I spend all of my time trying to do everything then I have a problem Solution #1: I’ve decided to do partial automations and so some manual social media.  I will still spend 45 minutes a day on Facebook for the next month.

Solution #2: To make most effective use of my time, my posts will tied back to my overall strategy.  At the end of the day, Facebook post should funnel people into your offerings. If they don’t, they don’t do anything for you.

Solution #3:  I’ve pulled what I am giving away for FREE on Facebook and incorporated the Manifesting Booster as a more affordable offering.  I’ve also done this in the context of my business strategy and funnels (which are in the process of being redesigned).

Solution #4: Building a team must be part of my strategy.  I’d been pushing back on this, thinking that I could do it all. Here’s the thing: it’s not because I can that I should or that I must. It’s actually ineffective. To that end, I started to work with a VA for a few hours. This turned out to be way less expansive that I originally thought and is well worth the investment. I also started having my house cleaned on a bi-weekly basis. It raises my vibration, so is wealth worth the price.

#2 Self-care isn’t an option.

I’m going to keep this section very short. If I’m burned out, I’m going to kill my business. Either I’m not going to attract clients. Or I’m going to lose the clients I have. I’m also going to be pretty miserable. That’s not the freedom I was looking for when I decided to follow my dream. Solution #1: Book a vacation. Mexico, here I come. Solution #2:  Go the gym. I’ve also built my schedule to block time to go the gym. This is no longer an option. Solution #3: Plan for vacation time and long weekends in 2016.  If I plan for it, it will happen.

Getting called out by a client was the best thing that I could have happened to me.

If she’s reading this blog post, I want say Thank You. You did more than you know. You put me back on the path of least resistance.

For that I will forever be grateful. Because of you, I’ve taken my power back Hopefully, you’ve learned from my melt down lessons and also picked up a few tips on how to take care of yourself WHILE running your  business. 2016 is looking brighter and it’s going to rock!

If you have any suggestions or would like to share your experience with exhaustion comment below and let me know!  

Should you manifest clients for money?  

It’s a question that was recently asked in Manifest Money Bootcamp.

It’s a great one.   Stop manifesting clients for money.  

When you manifest clients for money, you are telling the universe how the money should come to you.   Why is this a problem?

First, you are closing yourself off to all kinds of beautiful opportunities.

What if the universe wants to bring you the perfect job or the lottery?

You aren’t responsible for the how. Let the universe bring you what you need in the highest and best way. Be open to following your intuition and allowing it to guide you to the universe’s offering.  

Second, when you ask for clients from a place of need, you lower your vibration.

This can actually push your clients away because need doesn’t exactly bring joy.

Ask for clients from a place of desire. Desire brings joy. Joy makes manifesting easy as pie.   Now I’m not saying not to manifest clients. I’m saying manifest clients and manifest money, but don’t make them dependent on each other. Let the universe figure out how.  

Here are 5 steps to follow to do so:  

1. Ask for money – but only in the amount that you actually desire.

2. Ask for all the things you would do with the money. Everything on your list should excite you.

3. Ask for clients if you want to work with clients. Use a range instead of a fixed number.

4. Follow your intuition, when you get an idea, take inspired action and work towards your goal.

5. Keep your vibration up doing things that feel good every day.

That’s my tip for the week. What do think? Let me know in the comments.

Have you ever had a day in your business where nothing seems to go according to plan?

I’m afraid! Nothing is ever going to happen! I’m not smart enough! Is this what I’m really meant to be doing?  Thank god, all of that is just brain chatter.

It’s your job to acknowledge those feelings and do whatever is necessary to start feeling better. Otherwise the law of attraction will kick in and send you more struggle

Want to know how?

Follow these four steps.

Step 1: Decide to regroup.

You can’t control external results.

For example, you can’t force people to sign-up for your freebies, webinars, and/or programs.

But you can choose how you respond and feel about the results you are getting

The truth is you can sit in your office and sulk or you can decide to regroup.

Which will it be?

You decide. The sooner you choose to regroup, the sooner you can move forward and start manifesting again.

Step 2: Appreciate what you have.

Make a list of everything that has gone well in your business over the last few days. Then write a list of gratitude statements.

Start every line with I am grateful for XYZ.

This step will raise your vibration because it focuses your mind on what is working.  The more you focus on what is working, the more things work (it’s the Law of Attraction at work again).

Step 3: Stop what you are doing and go do something fun.

Don’t skip this step. I used to ignore this step.

I used to think that I could just work hard. I WAS SO WRONG. I didn’t start manifesting clients until I stopped doing what I was doing and did something fun to raise my vibration.

The truth is that you only manifest clients and cash from a place of high-vibration. So make this a priority. I don’t care what you do to raise your vibration, as long as it’s fun to you.

Whether you play guitar or listen to music or watch funny cat videos on YouTube, I don’t care. It’s so much easier to find solutions when you are feeling better.

Step 4: Regroup.

This step is where you regroup and start taking action to manifest again. Start by reviewing goals. If your goals no longer feel doable, adjust them.

A great way to do this is to set three goals: a minimum goal, a stretch goal, and a super stretch. A range will often feel more doable than a single goal, which allows you to believe.

Believing raises your vibration. You can’t manifest what you don’t believe is possible. Once you’ve reviewed your goals, it’s time to look for solutions.

This is where you might want to get into the itty-bitty details to look for solutions. What’s going well? What’s not going so well? What could be even better? What action can I take? As you look for solutions, ask the universe for inspiration.

A great way to do this is to talk to your inner-being.

She knows the fastest path to your goals. Here’s how you talk to your inner-being.  

• Close your eyes.

• Take a few deep breath’s making sure to exhale completely every time.

• Ask you’re inner-being to come out and play. Imagine her stepping out of you like a hologram. She steps in front of you and faces you.

• See what she looks like. And say hello.

• Talk to her about what you want to help with. Ask her what she believes is the easiest inspired action for you to take. Just talk to her as you would a friend.

• Thank her and let her go back into your space.

 Once you’ve done the exercise, you might or might not have action steps to take. If they feel good to you, do them. If not, don’t do them.

You’ve just learned the four easy steps to up your vibration and get back on track when things don’t go according to plan.

First you must decide to regroup. Then you must spend a few minutes appreciating what you have following by having some fun. And once you feel better you can regroup.

Now I want to know?

What’s your favorite way of raise your vibration when things don’t go according to plan.

Share your tips & tricks with the rest of us.